Since when does being single mean avaliable?!?

I'm confused. Where does this constant belief come from, that everyone who's not in a relationship wants to be? I'm not saying that I believe there are too many people who wants to be living alone their whole life but for some parts of it? Absolutely. For some strange reason there is a LOT of turbulence all around me relationshipwise right now. Amongst friends and amongst work collegues. The stars and planets must be all in the wrong places. Astronomical collision perhaps? :) Today at work a quite funny discussion took place. (Now this is all from a heterosexual female point of view mind you. And feel free to disagree as always - man as woman.) Anyway here's what was said:

It often seems to be the case that some men tend to try and move in and take a chance at every woman who just comes out of a relationship. Never mind if there has been a n y kind of chemistry or feeling whatsoever between him and the woman at all. Now she somehow automatically has a sign saying 'avaliable' hanging over her head!? Sounds familiar to anyone?

Now that's really what's confusing me.. Does that mean that the avaliability of a woman is defined by whether she is involveed with another man or not?? Is she diminished to somewhat of a red or green sign on a toilet door? Could it not just possibly be so that she is comfortable in her situation as it is? And even if she isn't, does that mean she's ready to take on anything or anyone - without any emotional selection at all? Maybe in some cases, sure, but I'm sceptical. Does being single instantly mean you are looking for something else??? To me it sure seems a lot of men are of that opinion..

Now don't get me wrong, I'm all for the romantic side of life and whatever feels right most probably is right and that everyone should follow their heart if they happen to meet someone they want to be with. No matter fast/slow timing or whatever. But to some of my girlfriends (you know who you are ;)) and me it too often seems like a crappy excuse from some mens' side. It's like they think: "Oh, she has a boyfriend? Then I get why she's not responding to my interest." (Duh!) Just as the same mindset seem to figure: "Oh, is she single now? Great! Then there is nothing standing in my way to be with her!" Eh.. HELLO!!?? Heard of own free will? Attraction? Personal interest?? (Or disgust? Repulsion? "I'd rather eat my own shoe after stepping in dog pooh?? I could go on..)

So the tip of the day (from a somewhat bitchy me, I get that):

1) If you're interested in a woman - tell her!
2) When she answers - LISTEN.

Now most men and women will say to themselves: "What an absolutely useless blogpost. Tell us something new, please." For all of you - sorry I wasted your time. For the rest of you..

You're welcome.

Peace love and clarity /Å